People make mistakes. Because we're human.
We're supposed to make mistakes! That's how we learn about life and develop character and personal depth. That's how we become wise. That's why we're here in the first place.
But for most people, making mistakes is not okay. Instead, they beat themselves up every time they do something wrong.
Mistakes become a source of shame and a justification for self-punishment.
Is There Something Wrong With Being Human?
Many people think so. Here's the logic they use:
"There's something wrong with making mistakes."
"But I do make mistakes." (Because I'm human!)
"Therefore, there's something wrong with me."
So the very fact that I'm human means there's something wrong with me.
Do you see the problem here?
If I believe these stories, then I can't possibly win. I'm guaranteed to lose. Which means I'll never feel good enough. I'll never think I deserve. And I'll probably never let myself have much happiness. Instead, I'll go around beating myself up and putting myself down.
Just for being human! For being who I am.
Is this really the way you want to live your life? In a no-win situation?
Take it from me, it's no fun. I used to feel like I was living with a jagged metal spike stuck through my heart. I was the one who put it there, but I had no idea at the time what was going on.
What's wrong with me?
That question was always on my mind, as I tried to make it through the day.. so I could try to make it through the next day. It still scares me how close I came to ending it all.
Those days are long gone. At this point, they don't even haunt me anymore. Actually, life is pretty good. It could be better. But it's good enough.
What Turned Things Around?
The first secret I learned was how to handle my emotions. Maybe 'handle' isn't the right word. Actually, it's more like 'surfing' my emotions. Letting them wash through me, without getting caught up in them.
I learned all emotional pain comes from not letting your emotions flow through you. It occurs when you block your emotions because you don't - or can't - or won't - feel them. Which always starts early in life.
If you're not familiar with this flow, then you might want to read my free e-book and listen to my free guided meditation that will take you directly to your emotional wellspring.
I'm not saying it's a piece of cake to all of a sudden start opening up the emotional flow. It's not. It's tough at first. But the longer you put it off, the worse it's gonna be.
Don't wait too long to heal your emotional pain.
You can reach a point of no return, where there's no turning back.
I've seen it happen to people.
You can reach a point where the pain becomes too great, the separation becomes too wide, and you just can't heal yourself. You can't mend.
You'll be broken for the rest of your life, and you'll die broken. A wasted life. I've seen it. I've talked to people in that predicament. They will never heal because they went too far. It's scary and you want to help them so bad but there's not much you can do except be there for them as they die a slow painful death.
I talk to people like that on the phone in my job as an emotional healing coach.
You don't want to be in that position. Trust me.
The sad thing is it could have been avoided. If only they'd started to turn things around before it got too late. But they didn't know. They believed the lies of society which says emotions are bad and wrong and you should be ashamed of yourself for even having them.
They didn't know emotions are the source of your aliveness and your power and your very reason to live. They didn't know. And now, they might want to believe me when I say those things, but it's too late to do anything about it.
That's why I'm writing these words today. It hurts me so bad to see people suffering because they bought into the lies of society. If I could save even one person from a similar fate it will be worth all the hassles and insults I've had to put up with by getting on the internet to tell my story.
Be willing to feel - if you want to heal.
Listen, step one is to be willing to start feeling your emotions. All of them. Even the painful ones.
Because you'll find that once you do, then you'll be able to pretty much feel whatever you want, whenever you want. That's where I am today. And you can know what that feels like, too.
I wrote an e-book about it, called the Emotional Healing Quick Start Guide. Maybe you've heard of it. It's getting around. If you don't have a copy yet, you can download it by filling in the blanks below, so I'll know where to send it.
You'll get lots of other free goodies too, but I don't want to spoil the surprise. Besides, that's not really what this web page is about anyway.
Today I want to talk about the next step. What do you do after you're willing to start feeling your feelings? That's where forgiveness comes in.
And it's probably not what you think!
What forgiveness Is Not
Just like we've been taught to believe a bunch of lies about our emotions, so we've also been taught to believe a bunch of nonsense about forgiveness.
Most people think it's a heave and a sigh and scowl on your face as you let someone off the hook for how they screwed you over. So they can do it to you again as soon as you turn your back.
And forgiving ourselves means we're taking some sort of quick and dirty shortcut so we can dump all that emotional baggage and obsessive thoughts we've been juggling these last - how many years???
Forgiveness means we got away with it. Or, even worse, it means they got away with it. That's what most people think.
Now here's the tricky part. Please listen carefully. All that stuff can be true.
They could screw you over again. It could mean you or someone else got away with it. And it can be a quick and dirty way to not pay your dues. But it doesn't have to be! And besides, that's not really how forgiveness works anyway.
Those scenarios happen not when you truly forgive, but when you go through the motions of forgiveness.
You see what I'm saying here? You can pretend to forgive - you can go through the motions - but not feel the experience of forgiveness. And it'll just be a sham. A lie. You may as well just stay home and eat a ham sandwich. Because you're lying to yourself.
Let me tell you something, and you can take this to the bank:
Forgiveness Is An Emotional Experience
It's something you FEEL. It's something you experience. Not something you do by rote.
If you only think about forgiveness, without feeling the realness of it, then it ends up as an intellectual concept rather than a living, breathing energy.
If you don't feel the forgiveness, then you're wasting your time. That's why I say you need to be willing to feel, before you start working on forgiveness. Because you have to be able to feel the forgiveness before it will do any good.
If you want to heal, you've got to feel. But just feeling, by itself, won't get you there. Hey, you're already feeling something. The question is, what are you feeling?
you're feeling the energy of forgiveness, life is
Hi, my name is Mark Ivar Myhre. I've made a lot
of wrong choices in my days. I hurt myself, and hurt others who
didn't deserve it.
Besides the guilt and obsessive thoughts, I was also living with extreme emotional pain.
I hated waking up in the morning and forcing myself to get out of bed.
I'd like to say there was some big event that changed everything and my life just started working out. But if I had sat around and waited for a 'defining moment' to inspire me, I'd still be waiting.
It was more like crawling through the mud, one agonizing step at a time. The only real breakthrough I had was stumbling across an almost hidden source of knowledge very few people knew about.
And part of that information concerned forgiveness - what it really is and how to attain a state of forgiveness in your own life.
I was able to find what works and use it to heal myself.
As bad as I wanted to, though, I couldn't go back in time and fix what I'd done to other people or change all the mistakes I'd made. Instead, I found something that actually works better.
See, my past is my path. It got me here. I needed my life experiences because in some strange way it actually led me to learn about forgiveness. If I'd lived a good life, I would never have been so driven to seek some real answers. What I learned more than made up for my crimes against myself and others.
Here's what I found -
If I could only use one method of emotional healing, it would be the technique of self-forgiveness. No doubt about it. Why?
Because the energy of forgiveness always comes before change.
Any time anyone has ever changed anything of substance about themselves - the energy of forgiveness was there to lead the way. Whether they realized it or not, they felt the energy of forgiveness, and something inside was forgiven before the change could even occur.
Either they got lucky and stumbled onto the energy of forgiveness, or else they took the time to consciously and sincerely forgive themselves.
Think of it as like one of those
big ice breaker ships.
It creates the space for change. It breaks through the blockages and resistances. It allows change to occur in your life.
And forgiveness especially needs to come before you can heal emotional pain.
It's also the greatest gift you can give yourself. It answers the tough question of -
"What's wrong with me?!"
With the correct answer -
"Nothing. I just
need more loving and more healing. I just need to forgive myself."
It releases you from your own private prisons - the invisible ones you never see but are nonetheless there.
Forgiveness fosters all growth and change.
Forgiveness ends the guilt and the emotional pain.
Forgiveness frees up the clutter - the mental and emotional clutter that slows you down and causes so much frustration. It's even been proven to make you smarter. (From Baumeister, R. F. (2002) "Humility, Egotism, Forgiveness, And the Victim Role")
Once I started forgiving myself I noticed it freed up brain cells! I could focus better. I could see things more clearly. It made me sharper. It's like the world slowed down. And I could more easily anticipate what was coming.
offers the best way to make a real and genuine change in any area of life...
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As you convince yourself forgiveness is a
good thing, the next question becomes - how
in the world do you do it?
Maybe you've said the words - even meant them - but nothing really changed. You didn't feel the release that happens when you truly forgive yourself. Maybe you didn't feel anything at all.
I've found the best way to get somewhere - or to achieve something - is to follow a specific 'process'.
I've refined it and honed it to a razor-sharp edge of effective healing power.
My program creates an almost foolproof way for you to experience the magic of forgiveness. The first time you go through the process, it may take an hour or so. And it might seem a little cumbersome. But that's only because its new.
Each time you do it, it takes less time and less effort.
Before long, you'll be able to reach a state of forgiveness in minutes.
Eventually you'll live your life in a state of forgiveness. That's the goal. That's when everything becomes easy. That's when life becomes magical.
Does my forgiveness program work?
Here's proof -
Your e-book... is brilliant.
[It] was of tremendous help to me because it taught me [what] forgiveness actually means. And the insight about the inner child made it all so clear to me. Bless you!
I will consult your other e-books in the near future. For the moment I am still working on the forgiveness manual and I recommended it to my friends as well.
With a lot of gratefullness,
Lucia Kanohwah, Greece
I am writing to say thank you so much for the e- book which I purchased from you on forgiveness.
It has been a tremendous blessing to me and after many years of beating myself up I am finally able to get through all of my "cover ups" and find the root cause of my deep seated problem.
You have certainly left no stone unturned in uncovering the truth and for this I am so very grateful.
Thank you for putting things into perspective in my life, and getting me back on track.
Please keep up the good work!
In gratitude... Robin from Australia...
You have been a great help to me with this Forgiveness meditation.
Your use of colors really worked for me!
And as for [the forgiveness] meditation I joke that I am addicted to it...Because I do love it that much.
Not only for the ability to get to know yourself [and] repair stuff but also as a way to feel Bliss.
Thanks again and I think your writing is brilliantly honest.
I live on a rock in the Atlantic Ocean :-) ...called Newfoundland, Canada.
The process of forgiveness is a skill you can learn.
Just like learning how to ride a bike.
It's not an 'intellectual exercise' - it's an EXPERIENCE!
It's something you live.
Just as you mastered the skill of riding a bicycle, so you can also master the skill of forgiving yourself.
And I can show you how to do it.
Many people feel they don't deserve to be forgiven - even by themselves.
So often we just won't let ourselves
off the hook. We'd rather carry the pain around with us because
we think it's what we deserve.
Plus, we want to punish ourselves before someone else does.
If you don't forgive yourself - then most likely you'll go around 'beating yourself up' mentally. And you'll never get rid of the emotional pain you feel in your heart.
You'll have a harder time dealing with
your current life, because all your attention has been captured
by those past thoughts and feelings you can't let go of.
It's like dragging extra weight behind you.
You can't even see the burden you're
dragging, but everyone else can.
Your writing has been pivotal for me. It carried me through some very trying times and allowed me to move to a new level of living.
It enabled me to forgive such that after 30 years I could FINALLY return to the Catholic faith - a faith that I loved but was also angry with.
This has been incredibly rich for me and it started with you.
Christine Newman, San Diego,CA
It does require a few materials, but you probably have everything you need laying around the house somewhere. It should cost less than five dollars if you need to go out and buy them. Then you'll be able to follow the map that leads to forgiveness.
Please understand, just saying the words, "I forgive myself" does very little. You have to do something besides sitting there and saying a bunch of words.
You must be deliberate. You need to follow a simple map to feel the magic of forgiveness -
Thanks indeed, Mark.
[I'm] delighted with the manual of forgiveness you've sent to me. I've felt so many times and still feel... the power of forgiveness.
It is kind of [a] magic power, and more, the best magic thing in [the] world.
I feel free from negativity, full of energy, kind, grateful and peaceful. I am able to see with new and kinder eyes.
[E]ach new day I feel more and more energized. It is wonderful to feel that you are able to forgive and you deserve forgiveness from yourself and others. I am sure we all can reach this...
Everything is possible now, from this power and inner peace. Thanks again, Mark, for your words and help, I feel greatful to you.
Cheers!!!! Carmen Mendez, Spain
Carmen's right. There is a certain magic that happens when you truly forgive yourself.
All those who've honestly and truly forgiven themselves have felt that magic. And they followed specific steps, even if they didn't realize it at the time.
Imagine stepping into the forgiveness process and moving through each of the stages with elegance and ease. Imagine the feeling of being swept up in the magic of forgiveness.
But it all hinges on following the map to forgiveness. When you follow this process you can move through the stages of forgiveness and come out the other side a different person.
More than just forgiven, you can be changed and healed.
You can spend years trying to figure out how to end the emotional pain. You could spend a lifetime without ever knowing the magic of forgiveness. Or you could let me show you right now.
It's time to decide if this is right for you. Does this make sense? Are you ready to make a real change in your life? Will you do what it takes to feel better?
I've written down every step you need to take to experience the freedom and power that comes when you truly forgive yourself. I've helped hundreds of people and I can help you too.
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I have started on my forgiveness process using your book and there already has been a transformation in my energy and internal dialogue.
You have magnificently laid out the process of forgivenss in meticulous details that it is really hard to imagine it not working.
I am grateful I came across your website. It really has helped change my life for the better!!!
Lavina Ikakoula, from Texas
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The Emotional Healing Coach
PS. - Once you experience the magic of forgiveness, you will have the time of your life living in the present moment instead of being tied down to your past. You'll start living for today, and planning for your new future.
You'll see things more clearly. Your vision of possibility will expand.
You'll be more powerful because you retrieved your power that was locked in the past.
You'll let go of all those unpleasant memories. No longer will they control you. And YOU will decide whether or not you even want to remember them. Either way, you will be in charge of your memories of the past. It frees you forever from those imprisoning thoughts and feelings.